The last few months have been one big blur of a mess.
I’m in the process of a divorce.
Like with many life-changing events that people go through, this one has really made me think and prioritize all the big and small things in my life. I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and thinking, too. And each day has brought different challenges. But through it all, there have been things that I needed to do for myself to maintain my sanity and be the best possible mom for my kids.
1. Hit the gym.
For the past year I’ve really been focusing on adding more physical activity to my schedule. But I have found it even more important now that I’m taking on this role of a single mom. It feels so good to jam a little Britney and sweat it out for an hour. It helps clear my head and makes me feel refreshed. Plus, the results make every sore muscle worth it.
2. Fill up that social calendar.
Keeping in touch with friends is something that cannot be overlooked during a life-changing event. With all the drama and legalities that come with divorce, it’s important to step away and enjoy a few laughs with a friend. Oh, and grown-up drinks help too.
3. Spa services to the rescue.
I’m always big on beautification. Seriously, nothing can make you feel like a million bucks quite like a massage or chemical peel. Getting a fresh hair cut or mani/pedi can do just as many wonders.
4. Indulge a little bit.
I usually save indulgence for special occasions, that’s why it’s called “indulging”, right? But during significant times, it’s important to treat yourself a little. When my divorce is all said and done, I’d love to take a trip somewhere. Even if it’s just a weekend getaway to a bed and breakfast. Until then, my favorite chocolate treats from a local bakery will have to do.
5. Seek professional help.
I know that some people are a tad uneasy when it comes to talking to a therapist about their feelings. But personal, I wouldn’t have been able to get through all of this without my weekly sessions. It has really helped to have an outsider’s perspective on things. Plus, unlike friends, a therapist remains objective. They’re trained to put biases aside and focus on you and your thoughts.